Thursday, October 29, 2009

He's Here!!


Easton Jordan Smith

Born @ 10:10pm on Oct. 26, 2009

8lbs 15oz

21.5 in.



My Belly the morning of our big day


Well, after the most painful experience of my life, he is here!!! Seriously, after my labor and delivery experience I commend all mothers out there who have done this more than once. Here is our experience.


We had planned on being induced a week early mainly because the week before I was due Jordan had a week off of school so it was the best time for us, and based on the size of our baby and his large head, which you will hear more about later, it was a good time for him as well.


We were scheduled to go in on Sunday evening so they could give me a tablet that would help me efface and contract. They needed to monitor the contractions and it could possibly cause me to go in to labor so I would have needed to spend the night. However, we went in and got all ready and after they had checked me, I was dilated to a 2 almost 3 and thinned to between 70 and 80% which meant I was too far along to give me the tablet. So, they sent us home to sleep in our own beds for the night, but we needed to be back by 6 am the next morning to start my induction. We got there and they decided after all the check-ups and paper work to start me on pitocin at about 8:30. They continued to up the dosage until around 11:30 which is when they decided to break my water because the pitocin wasn't doing much.


I started contracting about 12 and by 1:15 my contractions started getting worse and coming every 2 min. I decided to rethink the epidural I did not want because of my huge fear of needles. I got the most wonderful, heavenly epidural at 1:30. I know that the Lord was with me at that moment. The man that was supposed to give me my epidural was on a lunch break. So, a different anesthesiologist came in to do it. He did a combination epidural that I was told some doctors do and some do not (typically the younger doctors are more known to give it). So, instead of taking the 15-20 minutes for it to kick in, it kicked in right away and then when the first dosage wore off, the typical one that kicks in had already begun working. My contractions disappeared right away. I was told later that the doctor who was supposed to give me my epidural kicks husbands out and doesn't do that combination epidural.

So up until 6:30 I felt NOTHING as I waited for delivery time. When it came they had me start pushing at 6:45 - 7:15. It was exhausting and hard, but not incredibly painful because of the epidural. Well he wasn't moving much and my "Nurse from Hell" had the bright idea that I needed to feel the urge to push so they should cut my epidural in half. She swore it wouldn't be more painful, I would just have more of an urge. I could feel the contractions still and I knew when to push and I was pushing as hard as I could, but she felt we needed to do this and what did I know, I had never done this before. Well I tried pushing again at 8:00 until 8:15 and she says "I don't know if I believe that you can feel the urge to push like you say you are" and said we would start again at 8:30. Well don't worry from then on I pushed from 8:30 until 10:10 when I had the baby. It was the most awful pain I had every felt in my life. I seriously believe I could feel everything. My nurse was so discouraging and pushy and kept acting like I was overreacting with the pain. I had meltdowns when I felt like I couldn't do it anymore, and yelled at my nurse to stop being so pushy because she was definitely NOT helping. The most discourage part is when they continued to say he wasn't really moving.

The doctors were very nice and very encouraging when they were there (they had like 3 other deliveries at the same time). They would tell me that they could tell I was pushing hard and it wasn't my fault and I was doing well. It really could not have been true, but made me feel a whole lot better than my nurse did. So the doctor came in around 9:30 and said he wasn't really moving and they would let me try for another 1/2 hour but then might need to do a C-section. The pain was so awful I could not even think of pushing that much longer and said "Do the C-Section, GET HIM OUT!" But another doctor came in and said it looked like he had moved a little and they could try the vacuum and the forceps to help him along and that is how he came. We later learned that it was because of the size of Easton’s head that kept him from coming out. It didn't matter if they had cut the epidural in half or not, he still would not have moved. I got a 3rd degree tear and had a freaking oxygen mask throughout the whole thing.

Jordan was amazing. I am so grateful to have such a wonderful husband. It was funny because beforehand I told Jordan that he should take a picture right after he came so I could see what he looked like when he first came out. He had already told me how he just could not get himself to even want to watch and would just look at me the whole time. He was told all he would have to do is hold my hand and tell me I was doing well. Little did he know he would be the one holding my legs in the air and doing the counting along with grabbing my oxygen mask to put it back on me after I would throw it off when it was time for me to push while having blood splashed all over him from the vacuum and at one point freaking out because he didn't see them put the vacuum in and just heard a "POP" sound and after glimpsing over, he thought the doctor had pulled off the baby’s head. He really was encouraging and tried hard to count over the sound of our nurse’s voice. I could not have gotten through it without him.

Looking back, I feel I am and was reminded by the Lord that good things don't always come easy. I know we have so much to be grateful for. All I could think afterwards is how I never feel like I could mentally, physically, or emotionally ever go through that again. But looking at our beautiful son I could not imagine our family without this sweet spirit and if the Lord had it in his plan for us to have another one I know I could go through it again.







I got discharged from the hospital on Wed. and had to go right back on Friday night because Easton had jaundice and needed to be readmitted. For me, it was difficult. It seems like it would be a nice break from all the hustle at home, but I really missed my family. My husband had been home all week with the kids and I had only seen my kids 2 days during this week. I finally was able to come home on Sunday afternoon. But again as depressed as I was being away from my Husband and kids, Easton is home and slowly getting over his jaundice and it feels so good to be here with everyone!






Home for the first time (before going back into the hospital)

The boys loving Easton


Easton Today at 9 days old ( a whole lot less swollen from the vacuum and forceps and the jaundice slowly going away!)

27 comments:

Laura said...

He pretty much is the most adorable baby ever!!! He is so cute! Im happy to hear the whole story, Brandon related what Jordan told him and it wasnt too detailed. Im glad he was a huge help, and Im really glad you yelled at the nurse.

CONGRATS!!!!

Michelle Colt said...

Chan, He is sooooo stinking cute. I know it's hard now! But you are going to blessed! You are such a good mom and just worry about your kids all the time. You can do it! I love ya!

Carrie said...

Congratulations! Easton looks absolutely precious and looks like he'll get a lot of love from his brothers and sister! Glad you made it through labor/delivery. I'll be going through it sometime in the next 3 weeks! Good luck with everything.

Jessie Nielson said...

Oh Chandra, I had a very similar experience. I remember telling Jay that I was going to die. You are amazing! And I think Easton is one of the cutest babies I've ever seen. Congrats! Love you!

Becky said...

He is so adorable!!! I agree with Jess one of the cutest! You are amazing! Congrats and loves!

MKB said...

Congrats! He is a doll. You did awesome...seriously I probably would have told that nurse off. I don't think I would want to do it again if I hadn't had an awesome nurse.

Can't wait to see more pics of him.

Nicole said...

Congratulations!!! He is beautiful! I'm so happy for you and that everything went so well!! Love ya!

The Michiganders said...

Chandra--

He is just beautiful. They all are--I love the photo of you changing the baby and the twins are just watching your every move.

Then I realized that you cahnge alot of diapers in a day. You are my hero!

Congrats!

Steph said...

He is so freaking cute chan! I am sooooo happy for you! I can't wait to meet him someday!!! Love you guys so much!

Tara G. said...

I can't believe what you went through. I'm so sorry you had a bad experience. Little Easton is such a stud already! Congrats.

Mal said...

Chandra! He is so adorable! Congrats, and good job on getting through all that pushing. I can't imagine pushing for that long with how painful it is! Sorry about your nurse, that sucks but husbands really are the best support. Hey where did you get his baseball looking shirt, way cute! Anyway congrats he is such a cute little guy!

JoJo said...

Labor is a beast, no doubt about it!

But he is so dang cute, seriously.

Unknown said...

Chandra he is so dang cute, can't wait till I can come and hold him!! I hope you are doing better!!

Travis, Kassie, Ellie and Haven said...

That last comment was from me, I forgot to login as me. Let me know if I can do anything.

Tanya said...

he is perfect. i am sorry about that terrible nurse. you did not deserve to go through that.

Jens and Patricia said...

What a cutie! Sorry your labor was so terrible, that makes it even worse to have a terrible nurse. After you see them it is all worth it tho. Congrats! You guys did a great job!

Carla Geddes said...

Chandra, he is a seriously handsome baby. Congratulations. I have checked your blog everyday waiting for pics. LOL.
I am sorry your labour was so rough. It really is one of the hardest things I think us woman ever do. I had to laugh when you spoke about the heavenly epidural - Kassie had told me you weren't getting one, and I just chuckled, cos I remember when I went it, I was asking for one within less than an hour. LOL. No needle is more awful that the pain of labour. :D
I also thought Jake would just be holding my hand, but no, he held my leg too, and pushed on my butt through contractions to ease my back labour etc... you lose all dignity going into the delivery room. haha :D
Well done... you did awesome. hopefully we will soon forget these horror experiences, and actually want to do it again. :D
Miss you guys.

Carla Geddes said...

P.S October 26, is Jake's birthday

Lindy and Bryce Ellsworth said...

He is so cute! I love and miss you lots! It sounds like the whole labor/delivery experience was not the most fun, but I totally understand when you say it's all worth it especially when you look into your little one's eyes. I'm so happy for you all! He is so adorable, and the name you picked is cute! I'm so excited to talk to you! Love ya!

Kara Shaffer said...

Congratulations Chandra and Jordan!!! I am so happy for you! Easton is so adorable I'm happy that everything ended up wonderful!! Love you guys!!!

Hallie Owens said...

I am so late on wishing you congratulations! The pictures are amazing! All the best!

barbwinegar622 said...

I love following your blog and I'm so happy for you! What a darling addition to an already darling family! We miss you.

carlpam3 said...

Chandra your sweet little easton is a doll. And you have a cute family! I agree the pain of having a child is the worst ever . But weird how somehow we make it through. Congratulations!!!

The Gibson's said...

too cute. I am so sorry you had such a rough delivery my first, sounded a lot like your first and my second well you know wasn't much better but like you said I would do it again. :)

Donna said...

OHMYGOODNESS!!! ConGRATulations, guys!! Jordan - I canNOT imagine what that must have been like - good grief -what a crazy nurse! And what anordeal - he's is SO beautiful though! Oh - just amazing!

And look at you - all beauitful hours after labo with three kids piled up inyour bed and smile on your face. My dear, you are simply one of the most beautiful and amazing people Ihave ever "met!"

Take care of yourself, (try and) get some sleep an denjoy all 4 of your snuggly adorable babies!

AMEN! Congrats again!

Donna said...

Sorry - I have a dear friend "Jordan" lol - SO meant to type, Chandra! hehehe

Matt and Tommi +4 said...

CONGRATULATIONS!!! He is such a handsome baby!
I have learned that all labor and delivery nurses are like that. They think that just because they've seen a lot of deliveries means that they know what is best. I'm glad you yelled at her. I didn't have the courage to do that with my first.
We send our love!!!